Dilemma

If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning - Unknown

So true. I am a wonderfully horrible warning for my friends. I will just have everyone's fun for them, so they don't have to deal with all the extra baggage and crap.

So how exactly do you tell a friend that their significant other should not be so significant? I love my friends dearly, and while I have not always made the best relationship choices, (Adam, Adam, Adam...) they stuck with me through it all. However, it was only after the relationship ended and I was crying and being depressed that they were like, "Well, we didn't really like the way he treated you sometimes, etc etc etc." Granted, I probably wouldn't have listened to them during the actual relationship had they said these things, but it would still have been good to know how they felt during, instead of in the aftermath when they were picking up the pieces of me. I have learned over the years to never go against my gut instinct, and there are many times where outcomes are dependent on that very thing. So this time, when my gut is telling me this person is not right for my friend, that there is just something not right about the relationship, I am stuck and I don't know what to do. I know how I reacted when Bailie and Teetz especially were not down with Adam, and I got upset with them, but at the same time, they were right in the end. The same thing happened near the end of my relationship with Drake, as far back two months before we actually split, Bailie was telling me to end it. Hindsight she was right of course, but still, no one wants to hear that the love of their life is a ginormous Not The One.

So anyway, that's the deal. Any suggestions? I can't just call them up and be like, "End it, pronto." But I only see this ending badly, and I would never want any of my friends to feel the way I felt the last two months, if I can help it at all. But at the same time, people have to make mistakes, otherwise they're never going to learn. I can not even put my finger on it really, there's just something...ugh, I don't know.

Help.

Lyrics of the moment: Shiver - Maroon 5
(not at all related to the above situation, but instead a completely different, yet utterly delicious situation more directly involving moi)
You build me up
You knock me down
Provoke a smile
And make me frown
You are the queen of runaround
You know it's true

You chew me up
And spit me out
Enjoy the taste
I leave in your mouth
You look at me
I look at you
Neither of us know what to do

There may not
Be another way to your heart
So I guess I'd better find a new way in
I shiver when I hear your name
Think about you but it's not the same
I won't be satisfied 'till I'm under your skin

Immobilized by the thought of you
Paralyzed by the sight of you
Hypnotized by the words you say
Not true but I believe 'em anyway

So come to bed
It's getting late
There's no more time for us to waste
Remember how my body tastes
You feel your heart begin to race

There may not
Be another way to your heart
So I guess I'd better find a new way in
I shiver when I hear your name
Think about you but it's not the same
I won't be satisfied 'till I'm under your skin